I used to work in a high street shoe shop. It had a kids department and one day the management decided to see how I’d handle customer complaints. Long story short, I was the supervisor in the kids dept. for a day.
A woman came in with her 2 toddlers and a relatively new-born child. After dragging a staff-member out from the stockroom to fit the shoes. After a little while, the woman checks her watch and and catches my eye
“Excuse me? Would it be okay if I feed Joey here?”. She emphasised the ‘feed’ so I had an idea of what she meant. I asked her how she would mean to do it and she smiled and grabbed a large, wide-weave poncho from her bag. She told me that she drapes it over herself to allow her son to feed from inside. I saw no problem with it and held Joey whilst she arranged herself (Little fella didn’t like me much).
She carries on with her business with Joey feeding under the poncho. Another woman comes downstairs and I greet her as usual. She rounds the corner and as soon as she claps eyes on the breast-feeding scenario, she turned to me and started yelling.
“You can’t let her do that here!”
“And why not madam? It’s only natural” I felt like flying off the handle but I kept cool
“What if the blanket was to fall off? She’d be exposing her breast to everyone in the room!”
“Madam, as much as I could argue about this with you the whole day, if you continue to make a fuss about it, I will have to ask you to leave.”
“I’ll be back with my husband! He wont like this!”. She stormed off back up the stairs, the manager comes down after hearing the shouting. I explained to him what had happened and he said that he will handle the complaint if there was one. I was in the right.
Shouty customer comes back later (The other woman left a few minutes after the ordeal) with husband in tow. Wife points in my direction and the husband walks over to me
“You the one who made my wife leave?”
I’m currently scared out of my wits because the man is 6’3” and built like Thor but I manage an answer. “Yes I am but I had good reason”
He then said “I know” and shook my hand and left. His wife spluttered as she tried to ask him what just happened and he turned around to her and said “for once in your life you’ve left a shoe shop without buying anything. If I can’t shake the hand of the man who did that, I don’t know what I can do”
That concludes story time with George
I like story time with George.
George is the best story-teller.
What a good story.
reblogging for comic and the story
Controversial Facebook Photos of the Day: Air National Guard members Terran Echegoyen-McCabe and Christina Luna recently posted to Facebook several pics of themselves breastfeeding in fatigues — which they do all the time on Fairchild Airforce Base in Spokane, Washington – and their photos have prompted outcry from around the world.
No matter that there are no rules in military conduct against breastfeeding in uniform; one disparaging Facebook comment compared the images to “urinating and defecating.”
Fellow soldier Rita Trujillo commented:“I as one of many women who fought long and hard to be accepted and respected as fellow soldiers and the right to wear these uniforms feel shocked, angry at these published photos.”
The photos were taken for the Mom2Mom Breastfeeding Support Group,which raises awareness of women’s right to breastfeed in public.
America hates mothers in a way that is so insipid, you have WOMEN disparaging other WOMEN for doing what the breast was intended to do and being active engaged mothers.
Because “I as one of many women who fought long and hard to be accepted and respected as fellow soldiers and the right to wear these uniforms feel shocked, angry at these published photos.”
This is a statement made by a woman about how women feeding their children in their work fatigues damages her status and acceptance as a female soldier. Meaning motherhood is seen as something “weak” and breastfeeding is “dirty”.
Patriarchy is a hell of a drug.
Breastfeeding = awesome. That woman nursing twins is my fucking HERO.
These women are awesome, for so many reasons.
Yet I still do it, and then want to hit people.
Let me explain something to those who have never experienced the not-so-fun feeling that is nursing an infant or child:
Breastfeeding your baby is similar to having a sexual partner suck on your tit IN THE SAME WAY that giving birth is like vaginal intercourse. In that, they may both make use of the same body parts but there is NO comparison in sensation.
Seriously, I am so sick of reading insinuations that a mother is breastfeeding “for herself” because she somehow gets off on it. I wish it did work that way - women would want to breastfeed their babies a lot longer if it did!
So for the love of god, shut the fuck up you prude assholes.
i’ve reblogged this before but idc
it’s just a boob
it has nutrition for babies
The most bizarre thing after the Janet Jackson “wardrobe malfunction” incident was someone explaining why it was so inappropriate and why such a large fine was warranted.
They said that a woman’s nipples were not appropriate for children.
A woman’s nipples. Not appropriate for children.
So we can sexualize womens’ bodies in media and advertising, especially their breasts, but if a woman tries to use her breast(s) for their original biologically intended purpose, it’s inappropriate? What is wrong with this picture?
Breastfeeding Moms Stage “Nurse-in” Protests at Target Stores
(CBS) Should breastfeeding be allowed in public? The oft-debated controversy that pits moms against retailers and nosey onlookers reached a fever pitch yesterday when women across the country protested Target by holding “nurse-ins” at more than 100 stores in 35 states.
“Feeding your baby is nothing to be ashamed of,” North Texas nursing mother Angela Jackson told CBSDFW.com during a nurse-in. “I feel like asking someone to move to feed their baby is basically segregation.”
The nationwide protests began because of an incident on Nov. 28, when Michelle Hickman of Houston sat on the floor of the women’s clothing department and began breastfeeding her infant who had just woken up hungry. Despite covering herself and the baby with a blanket, two female employees came over to her and asked her to move and threatened her that she’d get a ticket.
Hickman legally had a right to breastfeed in public, so when she called Target to voice her complaints, a representative told her despite her rights, Target is a “family friendly public place” with different policies than what’s legally permitted, and suggested Hickman shouldn’t “flaunt” her feeding publicly.
Hickman organized a nurse-in for December 28, 2011. At the 11th hour, Target replied that it has a long-standing policy in support of breastfeeding in stores, and that the company would work to educate its team members on the store’s policies.
The letter was too little too late in the organization’s mind, so the nurse-in went on as planned. From Houston - where the incident took place - to Philadelphia to San Jose, moms across the nation brought their babies to Target stores to feed them in public.
“It’s going to take a couple of generations before it’s a non-issue,” one nurse-in organizer, Kelly Roth, told Time. “Our ultimate goal is for people to not notice that anything is happening, just like with breathing or speaking or a baby taking a bottle.”
FUCK YEAH THAT’S AWESOME.
If someone tells you to stop, tell them to get their nose out of your freedom.
Let’s talk about breastfeeding
“I don’t want my kids to see that!” “I don’t want my husband/boyfriend to see that!” These are things I’ve heard people say when discussing breastfeeding in public. Some of you seem to think there is something wrong with the act of breastfeeding, especially in public. You think it’s obscene or sexual in some way and you wish people would just go into the bathroom or do it at home.
So, is it really breasts that make you uncomfortable?
This photoset shows how breasts are portrayed in media (specfically advertisements) vs. what breastfeeding looks like.
The ads can be seen in magazines, on the web, on billboards, posters, etc. Your children or SO can encounter them every day and yet I don’t hear the outrage or disgust that is directed at women who breastfeed.
Why are some of you more offended by breasts being used to feed children, which is not a sexual act, but are fine with breasts being presented through the lens of the straight male gaze in order to sell products that have nothing whatsoever to do with breasts? What is it about using our mammory glands to feed our young, like all mammals do, that deserves your admonishment and offense?
“Yeah, well, pooping is a natural biological function too!” Except, how can you even compare pooping to breastfeeding? Breastfeeding has nothing to do with eliminating waste. A better comparison would be that breastfeeding is like when you sit down to eat a sandwich. You eat in public, right? Why can’t babies?
THIS. I’d rather my children find the breastfeeding pictures as normal, versus the advertisements. Of course, it’s not that kind of a world so you do what you do to take on the issues.
Everything a woman does, especially in public, has to be for straight male gratification only. Preaching to the choir, I know, but yeah.
Queer Porn Star Accused of Pedophilia for Breastfeeding Baby
By Diane Anderson-Minshall
Weeks after queer porn star Madison Young had her baby, she created an art exhibit titled “Becoming MILF.” The concept, according to Jezebel.com, was to explore how Young now embodies a contradiction, the dichotomy to end all dichotomies — that of the Madonna and the whore. At the show’s opening, she served up self-made breast-milk shakes and displayed a baby quilt made of burp cloths and porn star panties. Turns out not every feminist porn star agrees. According to Salon.com, a series of sex worker Twitter wars ensued, the controversy tapping into “culture-wide mommy issues.”
Porn star Furry Girl (who is known for her, um, stage name–like features) criticized Young for publicly breast-feeding, tweeting that only “creeps and pedophiles” are interested in seeing a porn star breast-feed and insinuated that exposing her child to such an audience was abusive. Girl called Young a “a revolting person” and dubbed her defenders “baby fetishists” and “pedos.”
Of course Young (née Tina Butcher) is already a well-known feminist porn star, director, author, and the founder of Femina Potens, an ever-evolving, queer and trans nonprofit gallery and performance space in California that the San Francisco Chronicle calls “the most happening art space in the city; a revolution in art and sex.” She’s curated the gallery for years, mixing envelope-pushing women’s sexuality exhibitions and spoken word shows from lesbians like Annie Sprinkle with less kinky feminist projects from literati like Michelle Tea. Young’s shown up on such outlets as IFC and the History Channel and in MSNBC’s Brian Alexander’s book America Unzipped, which has a whole chapter on her art and work.
So what was this controversial display of pedophilia that Furry Girl imagines? According to Salon, Young posed for a black-and-white photograph dressed up like Marilyn Monroe while clutching her daughter to her bare breast, nonchalantly breast-fed on a video, and then announced that she would nurse live and in person at an upcoming event meant to promote “health awareness for our queer, kinky, and sex positive communities.”
At the event itself, Young discussed breast health, while other presenters talked about breast cancer, antiretroviral drugs, and safe sex. “It wasn’t a sex party; it was an adult sex-ed class hosted by sex workers,” writes Salon’s Tracy Clark-Florey.Furry Girl, an actress in vegan porn, tweeted that context is at the root of her argument, though she no longer wants to comment on the debacle. Meanwhile, Young returned to social media in hopes of ending the Twitter mommy sex wars: “The only one sexualizing this image of me breastfeeding is you. Which makes me feel truly disgusted and violated.”
Our society is seriously screwed up in sexualizing a female body’s parts that are being used in a way they’re meant to function, to the point it feels it needs to control and limit their use for that function, based on the last couple generations being indoctrinated to believe that babies should drink formula because it’s healthier, because breasts = sex toys, therefore breastfeeding = dirty.
Bodies that have been assigned female at birth, not necessarily female bodies. But yes.
I hate people