Kelli Stapleton appeared on Dr. Phil, and advocates have taken to twitter for Issy: Tell Doctor Phil and the Media that Issy Stapleton is the VICTIM (


the other thing is that if we’re eternal children we can be denied autonomy forever for the sake of “our own well being”. we can be punished forever for non-compliance. we can be put completely at the mercy of our too often abusive caretakers.

autistic adults are as much adults as everyone else, and refusal to acknowledge that leads to situations like the ones above.


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Issy Stapleton deserves justice, NOT justification of her abuser’s attempt to murder her, and light colored hashtag at the bottom: #JusticeForIssy


Stop making excuses for people who abuse and even murder autistic people. Stop saying they were a “burden” and that their abusers were “at the end of their rope.” It doesn’t matter how hard someone is to deal with, they still don’t deserve to be abused or killed.


Video transcript, in case you want to just read through and skip to the part where I dump ice on my head. Which is pretty wimpy, because I don’t have a bucket and thus used a bowl. I would love it if people would share this, tweet it, etc.:

My name is Tracey, and today I’m doing a different kind of ice bucket challenge. I want to talk about violence against Autistic people. I am not Autistic myself; I have a sister with Autism. By now you’ve all heard about the incident in Ohio where an Autistic teenager, who thought he was going to participate in the ALS ice bucket challenge with his classmates, instead had urine and feces dumped over his head.

I’m not going to use the word ‘bullying’ or ‘prank,’ here, because I think it is trivializing to say something like ‘prank’ when we’re talking about genuine cruelty. I think this was an assault meant to degrade and humiliate a person. And I’m not going to link to the video that went viral, because I know the boy tried to hide the video from his mother after his attackers put it on Instagram, because he was embarrassed. And although I don’t believe victims of violence have anything to be ashamed of, I still think he deserved to have a say in whether more people saw that video. And so I think it’s sort of adding insult to injury that instead of being taken down, it went viral, and now everyone is tweeting and sharing this video that was very humiliating and that the victim didn’t want out there. So I didn’t watch it, and I’m not going to share the video or link to any article that does.

A lot of people are using this to raise awareness about Autism and what they’re calling bullying. Drew Carey and some other celebrities have offered thousands of dollars as a reward to find the perpetrators, and if the police find them without a reward, which it looks like they will, he plans on donating that money to Autism Speaks. And I’m making this video to challenge him and everyone else to please donate their money somewhere else.

Autism Speaks doesn’t have any Autistic people in positions of leadership. They actually lobbied against a proposed amendment to the Autism Cares Act that would basically mandate greater representation of Autistic people in the groups making decisions that impact their lives.

Only 4% of Autism Speaks’ budget goes toward improving the lives of people with Autism and their families. Most of their budget goes to research, and most of their research money is spent on trying to prevent and cure Autism, not on learning how to enhance the quality of life for people living with Autism.

Autism Speaks uses language that dehumanizes Autistic people. They compare Autism unfavorably to pediatric AIDS, cancer, and diabetes, and basically speak as though if you have a child with Autism, that kid may as well be already dead.

That is the kind of language that justifies violence. In fact, Autism Speaks once did a TV spot, called Everyday Autism, where one of their board members talked about how she used to want to drive off a cliff with her daughter in the car. She said this right in front of her daughter, and the takeaway was supposed to be that this was understandable because having a child with Autism is so difficult. I haven’t asked my parents, but I have never, ever wanted to kill my sister. But parents often DO kill their disabled and Autistic children, and the rhetoric of Autism Speaks, more often than not, is the rhetoric of parents who kill their children; of hopelessness, of burden, of Autism being a plague that needs to be wiped out.

Autism Speaks has given table space at their fundraisers to the Judge Rotenberg Center a school that is under investigation for using painful electric shocks on students, a practice that has been defined by the U.N. As an act of torture. This kind of institutional abuse of disabled students is very common, and Autism Speaks has never really made this a priority. Institutional violence and caretaker violence represents as great a danger to Autistic people as peer violence does, and they come from the same place – the dehumanizing of disabled people, which Autism Speaks participates in.

So as you can see, the legacy of Autism Speaks has not really been a legacy of fighting violence against people with Autism. It’s been a legacy of normalizing violence, enabling violence, and keeping people with Autism from accessing the sort of power and agency that would let them effectively fight violence. Autistic self-advocates have tried to reform Autism Speaks for years, but Autism Speaks has ignored their critiques while continuing to take credit for their work. When you support Autism Speaks, you support silencing Autistic people, and you support the myth that the existence of Autistic people victimizes those around them. That is the language of violence.

People in Bay Village, Ohio are doing some amazing things rallying around this boy who was attacked, and they’re having some great conversations about respect and acceptance of people with cognitive disabilities. It would be such a waste if that awesome energy and that desire to foster respect and acceptance just wound up funneling money into Autism Speaks because it happens to be the biggest Autism nonprofit, when that money could so such amazing things elsewhere.

I have made a donation of forty dollars – and my boyfriend has matched it – to the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network. The Autistic Self-Advocacy Network has a mission of fostering acceptance and creating opportunities for Autistic people. They organize programming at colleges and universities to make campuses more accessible and inclusive. They organize paid internships to give Autistic people job opportunities, they work to give Autistic people more of a role in shaping legislation and policy that impacts them, like the Autism Cares Act that I mentioned earlier, and most importantly, they are active in combating violence and abuse against people with disabilities.

Fighting violence against disabled people and the attitudes that normalize and enable that violence, has always been a priority of the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network, and it will always be a priority of mine. I challenge Drew Carey, Bay Village Ohio, and anyone who shares that priority to give their money to the Autism Self-Advocacy Network or a number of other organizations, which I have linked below, instead of Autism Speaks. None of these organizations are even half as well-funded as Autism Speaks, and ten thousand dollars would be a huge deal to any of them.

And because I feel so strongly about this, I’m going to dump ice on my head now.

About Autism Speaks:

Good alternative organizations:


Autism Women’s Network

Autism National Committee

ADAPT (disability rights organization)



I wonder how long we’ll stay friends on Facebook.

I literally just deleted someone for sharing that picture! Was a coincidence


the whole autism = mentally a child thing is awful in itself, but it’s even worse because it’s used to deny us personhood. you can take away our autonomy if it’s to ensure our care, you can criminalize every single sexual encounter we have if it’s because we’re unable to consent, you can ignore our needs because we’re non-compliant.

'mental age' is an incredibly ableist concept and it needs to stop.


Bullies Douse Ohio Boy With Bodily Fluids, Cigarettes for Ice Bucket Challenge

An Ohio autistic teenager thought he was taking the ALS ice bucket challenge, but instead of water, a group of juveniles doused the 15-year-old boy with a mix of bodily fluids and cigarette butts, family members said Wednesday.

The incident, which was recorded on the boy’s cell phone, was released to KTLA sister station WJW-TV. The teen’s family chose to share the video in an effort to make other parents aware of bullying, the Cleveland Fox affiliate reported.

In the clip, the shirtless teen is standing in front of a garage when from above comes a bucketful of liquid, which according to the boy’s family, contained feces, urine, spit and cigarette butts.

“Once we found out about it, we were just horrified,” the boy’s mother told Fox 8. “I want these kids held accountable for what they did to him, and that they targeted somebody who just didn’t really understand what was going on.”

A police investigation is underway and criminal charges could be filed, according to Bay Village Police Department Det. Kevin Krolkosky.

“Obviously, if possible, we do want to hold those individuals accountable for their actions,” Krolkosky said.

The teen’s mother and father hoped the release of the video will inspire other parents to talk about bullying with their own children.

“The bucket challenge is supposed to be raising awareness for this disease and now they’ve turned it into a sick joke,” the victim’s mom said. “I just can’t understand why kids would do something this cruel.”


I wanna beat the life out of these kids Im so pissed off by this.

Hey y’all, there’s a petition y’all can sign to get those motherfuckers prosecuted for their bullshit.


destroy the notion that someone’s mental health is what makes them evil.

destroy the notion that mental illnesses make bad people.

destroy the notion that you can’t be an outright awful person without being mentally ill.

destroy the notion that neurotypical people can do no harm.

destroy ableism.

"A Kansas City, Mo., couple had their daughter taken into custody by the state two days after her birth because both parents were blind. A Chicago mother, because she is quadriplegic, endured an 18-month legal battle to keep custody of her young son. A California woman paid an advance fee to an adoption agency, then was told she might be unfit to adopt because she has cerebral palsy."


Disabled Parents Often Lose Custody Of Children, Report Finds

This is such a serious problem! Child welfare laws across the U.S. allow children to be taken from their parents because their parents are considered “unfit” due to a disability. Not negligence, abuse, etc. - just blindness or paralysis or autism.

(via disabilityhistory)





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This is sickening.

I went to a school like this when I was in grade six. My inhalers were locked up in the office, and I was having an attack. My memories are a bit foggy (I couldn’t breathe after all) but I recall my twin sister and somebody else wheeling me all the way to the office in a computer chair. Thankfully I was lucky and got my meds in time; I ended up off school for a week and a half recovering.

This shit is scary. Rescue inhalers should be on the person of the child who NEEDS them, and if they are too young then they should be with the caregiver. There is absolutely no excuse to keep RESCUE MEDICATIONS locked up away from the people who need them FAST.

how is this not illegal???



hey here’s a rad idea: stop perpetuating “positive” stereotypes of developmentally disabled people like “autistic people can’t tell a lie” or “kids with Down’s Syndrome are always so happy and smiling! they could never hurt a fly!”

we are not your one-dimensional inspiration porn, we are human beings with distinct and complex personalities

your seemingly positive stereotypes of us are actively harmful because they contribute to our dehumanization—because they deny that we are human beings with distinct and complex personalities

plus the consequences of not fitting into that one-dimensional mold can be very, very unpleasant

so just stop

What’s especially awful about some of these stereotypes are some of the reasons why these stereotypes emerged in the first place. For example, people with Down Syndrome and other types of intellectual disabilities have often been trained into compliance and basically not allowed to exhibit anger or even sadness.  Some may be genuinely happy at a given moment, but others may be covering up “non-compliant” moods because they may fear what will be done to them if they show the “wrong” emotions.

"The late, disabled playwright John Belluso had a theory about why actors who play disabled characters often win Oscars: It is reassuring for the audience to see an actor like Daniel Day Lewis, after so convincingly portraying disability in My Left Foot, get up from his seat in the auditorium and walk to the stage to accept his award. There is a collective “Phew” as people see it was all an illusion. Society’s fear and loathing around disability, it seems, can be magically transcended."


Disability Is Not Just a Metaphor: The entertainment industry loves disabled characters—but not disabled actors

in the meantime, if we were allowed to see more representations of people with different disabilities in film, tv, pop culture and real life, that fear & loathing would dissipate, and we’d start to see disabilities as a normal part of life.

(via disabilityhistory)