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Anonymous:
you dont tag trigger warnings?

ifiwakeinthemorning:

uoa:

i always get shit when i talk about this but the reason i dont tag tw is bc

a) the term ‘trigger’ is meant to refer 2 those with PTSD those w severe anxiety and/or survivors of various forms of abuse it indicates an extreme reaction 2 certain stimulus like a panic attack/flashback/blackout caused by ur brain being unable to handle the resurgence of something horrific that happened to u 

b) with that being said, i dont post triggering content. i havent talked about serious triggering shit on this blog for a long time in fact i think the last time i tagged smth was when i reblogged this youtube video about domestic abuse probs like 6 months ago nowadays i just reblog pretty pictures and make fun of anons 

b) i get a thousand messages everyday from ppl suggesting i should tag shit like ‘spiders, ‘blood’, ‘feet’, ‘ghosts’, etc and it seriously pisses me off that u guys really believe ‘triggering’ equals ‘it makes me uncomfortable’ im not here to make tumblr a better place for u im not even getting paid man it’s ur responsibility to take care of yourself when it comes to these random ass ‘triggers’ if u cant see a gif of a ghost on ur dash you shouldn’t be online at all

d) in fact, ive come to the conclusion that demanding one of these lame ass trigger warnings it’s just a way 2 identify yourself as even more aware even more solicitous than the person who failed to ~adequately~ provide such a ridiculous warning. when i see ppl tagging ‘tw: spiders’ i cant help but think they are not demonstrating a sensitivity towards a topic but rather they just wanna be ‘seen’ doing so 2 demand that others ‘ought’ to do the same to validate one’s politics. this whole ’trigger’ business is less about protecting ppl from potentially re-traumatizing events and more 2 do with flagging up your right-on credentials even if it means silencing those who have actually gone through actual traumatizing events.

1. As someone with PTSD amongst other disorders, I assure you that is categorically untrue. Trigger is a term used by psychologists that refer to things including but not limited to: things that cause depressive and manic spirals, things that cause panic attacks (including phobias, like arachnophobia), things that cause suicidal ideation, things that cause self harm cravings, disordered eating cravings, dysphoric episodes, dissociation, dysmorphia, and self destructive behaviours. It’s used much the same way by the tumblr community who, by and large, encountered it’s use first through psychologists and therapists and decided to spread this to tumblr to create a safe space.

2. If someone has asked for a trigger warning, you’ve probably posted triggering content. You don’t know other people’s triggers. In fact, even restricted to PTSD, triggers can be odd precise things that have very personal associations (sometimes even associations the sufferer can’t understand) to the trauma they have suffered. That can even extend as far as colours!

3. Saying that people shouldn’t exist in spaces because they suffer from extreme mental health issues is outright ableist. Including odd phobias! That simple.

4. Trigger warnings can create an environment that is inaccessible to those who are uneducated on them, yes. That can become classist, ableist and exclusive. The way to deal with this is to educate people, not to throw the concept out the window.

And this is also a reminder that if you think someone is too sensitive you do NOT deliberately expose them to things to get past that, which is what you do when you refuse to tag people’s phobias. Because blacklists. YOU DO NOT PERFORM PSYCHOTHERAPY WITHOUT SOMEONES CONSENT.

imagine that every book, every article, every news story about women’s issues interviewed only husbands and fathers.

jumpingjacktrash:

that’s where we are right now with disability rights.

walkingsaladshooterfromheaven:

People say “professional”

when what they really mean is “not having visual/behavioral markers of being poor, disabled, or culturally ‘other’”

which effectively shuts out of professional careers the very people who are most likely to be in dire need of income

I see your bullshit

chronic-faerie:

since that wage post is going around again here’s a reminder that it’s still legal in the US to pay disabled people 22 CENTS AN HOUR

Goodwill got shit for this for like five minutes but there’s a poster in the back room at my job that says the employer can literally decide how much a disabled worker makes if they want to.

Like, it’s just up tothem. Theres no guaranteed minimum wage for disabled people.

Why the fuck does nobody know or care that this is a thing?

the-common-sensor:
The last thing I've got to say to your ignorant highness is this. Actually, no. I AM A PSYCHOLOGY STUDENT. And you know exactly what about psychology I study? AUTISM AND OTHER NEURODEVELOPMENT CONDITIONS. You know what else I'm doing from the start of next year? A PHD. You know in what? THE LINKS BETWEEN NERUOCHEMISTRY AND AUTISM. Get your head out your arse, some people only want to have a serious discussion about things they actually HAPPEN TO KNOW ABOUT, and happen to like questioning.

lennyisajew:

Like I said to the girls in my psych class last year, the 5th-year seniors who were just about to start working in their fields…

You should reconsider your major then, because you represent the sum of every flaw in mental health care and social work. 

If you honestly think your feelings are more important than your potential patients then you need to work on that or get out of that field before you hurt someone. Because that’s exactly what you will do, you will take a person whose self-esteem and mental health are failing them and you will tell them it is more important to cater to you.

Just like nearly every other psych I’ve had to put up with in the past twelve years.

You’re going to help create a generation that needs to recover from their care and I feel sorry for any patients you may have. I wish I could protect them from you.

prokopetz:

barnabasdeimos:

diglettdevious:

little-kitten-doll:

fast-and-fit:

THIS

To everyone who says it’s too expensive to eat on a budget. 

I love Twizzlers 

Where the fuck are you people buying your food that it costs so little?!

Note that virtually all of these price comparisons are complete horseshit. While it’s true that raw ingredients purchased in bulk can be cheaper than prepared or fast food, a naive price comparison doesn’t take into account a whole constellation of externalities, including:

  • Travel expenses. Grocery chains that sell raw ingredients in bulk often don’t have branches in or near low-income neighbourhoods, so the driving distance to reach one can be significant. If you have a low income, the gas you spend getting to and from the grocery store is a non-trivial component of your food’s total cost - and that’s assuming you own a car at all.
  • Storage expenses. Raw ingredients purchased in bulk need large amounts of storage space, and often that storage space needs to be refrigerated or climate-controlled. Many low-income households do not own large refrigerators or freezers, or cannot afford the electrical bills associated with keeping a large refrigerator or freezer running 24/7.
  • Preparation expenses. Raw ingredients purchased in bulk require appliances and tools to turn into edible food. Many low income households do not own a proper range or full-sized oven. Your food preparation options are sharply limited when all you have to work with is a microwave and a hot-plate - and, again, even if you do have a proper range and oven, actually using them incurs gas and electrical charges, which add to the real cost of your food.
  • Time. Driving to and from a distant grocery store takes time. Preparing food from raw ingredients takes time. This time expenditure can easily amount to hours per week - which is no particular impediment when you’re working a regular nine-to-five, but if you’re a single parent, or holding down multiple minimum-wage jobs with unpredictable schedules in order to make ends meet, that may well be time you don’t have. Plus, even if you can spare it, your time has monetary value (i.e., the time you’re spending purchasing and preparing food is time you’re not spending on any other productive endeavour), which again contributes to the real cost of your food.

Once all of these factors are properly taken into consideration, prepared and packaged food - and yes, sometimes even fast food - is indeed substantially less costly than purchasing raw ingredients in bulk and preparing your own food. Having the time, facilities, and convenience of access to prepare your own food from scratch every day is a luxury - and one that’s increasingly out of reach for many folks.

There’s also the issue of ableism at play. Someone who simply doesn’t have the energy to make a meal from scratch can have an easier time buying microwave meals, ordering out, or (if their energy allows) going to a drive thru, even if they were to have the space and items needed to make a meal from scratch. I really need these bullshit posts to stop.

"In 1949, I contracted polio at a very young age. Suddenly, I was unable to walk and had to use a wheelchair for mobility. I was the only one in my family who had a disability. In those days, because of my disability, I was denied equal access to education. At the age of five, I could not attend my local public school and was expected to be satisfied with my “good fortune” when the New York Board of Education sent a teacher to my home for 2.5 hours a week for instruction. In fact, when I set out to teach in a New York public high school years later, I was initially denied the opportunity to do so because I in my wheelchair was considered a “fire hazard.” In those days, this was not considered discrimination, but rather that people just didn’t know better. And for those of us with disabilities, we simply had to accept the way the world was – a world where we were marginalized, often invisible, sometimes forgotten."

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Judith Heumann, “From the Civil Rights Act to the Disabilities Treaty

On the importance of the Senate ratifying the Disabilities Treaty this July. Call your Senators and tell them to support the Disabilities Treaty

(via disabilityhistory)

People wanting to support the Disabilities Treaties will find more information and a great action center at

http://disabilitytreaty.org

The action center can help you identify your Senators and provide you with a script for making phone calls to them.  (Or, if preferred, emails.  Some Senators do count phone calls more, but emails still count also.)

Examples of scary Ableism

andreashettle:

bittersnurr:

Women with disabilities twice as likely to be abused, women who are institutionalized are 10x more likely.

You can be easily forceably hospitalized for mental illness, (even if you aren’t mentally ill), They can also do it if they don’t agree with your diagnosis and force you off your medicine.

Politicians publicly express opinions similar to nazi germany

That isn’t godwins law because it actually was a thing that happened.

You can also be forcibly sterilized

disabled people comprise the world’s largest and poorest minority group and are trapped into poverty by the system.

You can totally kill your disabled kid and get away with it.

So will the police.

These examples were things i thought of off the top of my head and googled. Feel free to shove these into google and see all the other articles on it if you don’t like the sources.

These again, were things i thought of off the top of my head. Feel free to add to it and I’ll put it in the post.

The World Report on Disability, released by the World Health Organization (WHO) and the World Bank in September 2011, documents that people with disabilities are more likely to be excluded from education, employment opportunities, basic health care, and so forth.  WHO and the World Bank are both about as official as you can get for sources of information.

Also browse through the many links you will find at http://gdrl.org for many many more examples and publications and reports and studies on the situation of people with disabilities around the world.

For more anecdotal information, you can read more about ableism (known as “disableism” in the UK) in the words of people with many different disabilities via the posts collected in the 2013 edition of the annual “Blogging Against Disableism Day” (BADD) event: http://blobolobolob.blogspot.co.uk/2013/05/blogging-against-disablism-day-2013.html.  And you can also browse posts contributed for past BADD events in these archives: 200620072008200920102011 and 2012.  Each year sees more than 100 people blogging on the topic from more than 100 different perspectives.  And although there are some repeat contributors, there are also new writers each year as well.

"A Kansas City, Mo., couple had their daughter taken into custody by the state two days after her birth because both parents were blind. A Chicago mother, because she is quadriplegic, endured an 18-month legal battle to keep custody of her young son. A California woman paid an advance fee to an adoption agency, then was told she might be unfit to adopt because she has cerebral palsy."

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Disabled Parents Often Lose Custody Of Children, Report Finds

This is such a serious problem! Child welfare laws across the U.S. allow children to be taken from their parents because their parents are considered “unfit” due to a disability. Not negligence, abuse, etc. - just blindness or paralysis or autism.

(via thisisableism)

bheidh:

a reality check that’s a blow to the solar plexis

SEE ALSO: why i’m crumbling under the weight of prolonged loneliness for fear of letting anyone in again & repeating this

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surfandwrite:

thesoftghetto:

niggawithablog:

locc-2dabrain:

krxs10:

why THE FUCK is no one talking about this

why isnt this on the news

we all know the reason why. stop the bullshit.

And this shit happened on May 18…MAY 8-FUCKING-TEENTH!

Story

I read the article and this honestly makes me so fucking angry. I encourage all my followers to reblog the shit out of this. Share it on your Facebook and Twitter, too.

captain-pride:

Don’t ever ever EVER tell a person who identifies as disabled that they are not disabled. Especially if you are not disabled.

This has happened to me so many times.

I don’t care if you can’t see my disability.

Yes, I reference it casually in conversation because it’s a big part of my life and I’m learning to accept that.

YOU do not get to decide that because I can walk sometimes, I am not “disabled enough”.

Fuck that. Fuck you.

contra-indication:

spondylitis:

The nerve!….This goes out to all the spoonies.

Read this:

My name is Emelie Crecco, I’m 20 years old and I have cystic fibrosis. CF affects the lungs (as of many organs in the body) because of this I have a handicapped sticker. I’m not one to “abuse” the sticker, meaning I use it when I’m having a “bad day” (some days its a little harder to breathe). Today was HOT so I needed to use my sticker. I was running errands all day around my town, I pulled into a handicapped spot, placed the sticker in my mirror and continued into the store. Upon returning to my car I found a note written by someone, it said “Shame on you, you are NOT handicapped. You have taken a space that could have been used by an actually handicapped person. You are a selfish young lady.” I was LIVID. How can someone be so ignorant and cowardly? They clearly saw me walk out of my car, why not approach me? Not all handicaps are visible. I would love for you to share this story. It would help spread awareness for CF, but it would help open people’s minds to what handicapped really is.
Thank you for your time”
~Emelie Crecco

A friend of mine fell over 20 feet and basically broke half his ribs, punctured his lung, broke his arm in three places that required many surgeries to fix and messed up a nerve in his leg. He had to walk with a cane for a long time after it and some lady in a restaurant thought he was just walking with a cane for the hell of it and she ripped it from his hands and grabbed his messed up arm and shook him and told him he was an awful human being for pretending to be handicapped. What the fuck people?

Yes, there are non-verbal people, it’s just that that fact doesn’t mean what you think it does.

chavisory:

This happens a fair bit in comment threads…the most recent was in a conversation on a friend’s blog about where and how to find autistic friends…where the existence of non-verbal or non-speaking people will be brought up as this persistent non-sequitur supposed rebuttal to practically any point I make.

"But what about non-verbal people?!"

"But what about people who will never speak?"

"What about people who can’t live independently???"

"But but but…people who can’t communicate in any way!"

Like… Yup, they exist!  (With the exception of the last category, which I’m not willing to concede when we know that so many people have their communication, especially if it’s non-verbal communication, actively disregarded, and so many professionals do not have a working understanding of what autism even is and isn’t.)

Yes, all of those people exist, and I believe what I’m saying applies to them as much as it does to me.  (And by the way, the fact that some people can’t speak, the spectre of not being able to speak as the worst possible imaginable thing, is really not the scare tactic to use with me.  It’s really not.)

And I want to be like “What do you want me to say?!  Do you WANT me to say ‘Yes, you’re right, there’s no real hope that your child will ever meaningfully communicate with another person?’”

"Yeah, you’re right, we have to just accept that some people will never be meaningfully engaged with the world."

"Yes, you’re right, there is no chance of tracking down and ameliorating the reason for your child’s aggression, certainly not in anything that you could possibly change about your thinking or assumptions about the situation."

"Yup, some people we really just have to write off as unable to communicate in any way so what I’m saying doesn’t apply to them."

"Yes, you’re right, there really aren’t any other self-advocates who are similar to your daughter, or writing about issues relevant to her."

"Oh my gosh, you’re right, I had never even considered that before…I guess that really invalidates everything I’m saying.”

Of course what I’m afraid of is that those things are really what they want me to say.

"No, you don’t actually have to look past surface appearances to question your assumptions about this situation at all.  You’re right; there’s nothing you can do, you don’t have to try."